Many, many thanks to everyone who commented (and emailed!) about my last post. I always appreciate the support. I have exactly one more paragraph to say about it and then we shall never speak of it again:
As a young woman, I learned very early to ignore unwanted attention. Avoid, avoid, avoid. Look down. Smile politely. Walk faster. And I desperately wanted to avoid avoid avoid that comment. I didn’t want that to be my experience here and therefore, I didn’t want to acknowledge it. I wanted to look down, smile politely, delete the comment, walk faster. I didn’t want to engage. However, I felt I had to. I had to. Because no one would say something that blatantly sexually offensive and subtly threatening to a man. In fact, I can’t even think of a suitable equivalent for dudes because there isn’t one. That kind of sexual aggression is reserved for women only. I have no control over how a smarmy cashier speaks to me or what some asshole in a passing car decides to yell out a window, but I can control what I feel comfortable allowing in the personal space I moderate here. And so today I drew a new line. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it as many times as it takes: we can be friends, unless you’re sexist or homophobic or racist or otherwise entirely offensive. Then I get to say no thanks.
Okay. Done. No more.
Tomorrow, I’ll be back to regularly rescheduled nonsense. Until then, please enjoy this: